Every day of our existence we confront ourselves with certain feelings; some we may explain some we can’t. All the feelings we have appear due the situations we live right now, we lived or due the situations we’ll live in the future. How many of us haven’t wished to get rid of some bad feelings like pain, remorse, guilt and so on? How many of us haven’t desired to keep a feeling longer because it was pleasant, warm it made us felt good, as if nothing else would matter?
We can’t always explain why we love someone it just happens. How many times haven’t you asked yourself: why do I like him? Why is it him and not another? Usually our conscience part of our mind thinks that the one we’ll love we’ll be in a certain way… for some he may be smart, for other beautiful, for others it may be the mystery or the look in his eyes. But the so called chemistry doesn’t appear for those that we wish but to others. In some cases you may find all of the things you want in others you may find none.
What are emotions?
Emotions are the energy that lies inside of behind a thought, an action. Every time we try to do something we’ll always encounter a motivation, a desire a feeling we can’t explain, that because emotions aren’t easy to explain, they’re easy to be felt. Emotions are practically thought filled with a vibration given by the desires we have when we start walking an a certain road. It’s wanted that we have an emotional balance in our life and lately this subject started to be more wanted by every one of us. You may wonder why this does happens now and why it didn’t happen earlier. Simple… due the last period of stress, crises or fast development we kind of forgot how to feel, how to enjoy simple things in life or how to see just a full glass and not the empty one. Because the evolution went from slow to fast we had to adapt and the easiest way to do that was to cut our emotions from their roots.
More and more people commit suicide because of their conditions, because they don’t have whom to talk to, whom to cry or laugh with. Socializing is becoming more and more a chat on the internet. If you will look at the basic need of a person, one of the most important are the need for affection and affiliation. These can be obtained only through a direct contact. Some of us have forgotten or haven’t even been thought how to express their feelings. So what do we do with them? We start collecting them inside until we become sacs of powder and then we “explode” into a inadequate behavior or we express it somatic.
The emotional balance appears when you give yourself the chance to grow your emotions, to accept your limits, to learn from your mistakes or to analyze things in a different manner, from another point of view. In most of the time we act influenced by the emotions we have in that exact moment and we forget to run our thoughts through the sense of reason and later we realize that we haven’t made all the right choices. It is important that we act as we feel but not for our important decisions, not for what we should think; we should try to act as our emotions say when we have good feeling. What happens when we’re mad and we act out? We make mistakes. What happens when we’re in love and act out? We say or do beautiful things that make that person we love special and it also makes us feel good about ourselves because we did something important.
Maybe you noticed that sometimes you regret the choices you made because you were not thinking or you talked without thinking it over. In these situations it happens to act under the pressure of the moment and we have to try to analyze thing in an objective way so we may be able to make the right decision for us and for others. Some psychologists think that we have to learn how to enjoy the beauty of our life, the small thing and that we have to act as we feel in that exact moment… although they also say not to dream wide-open and to keep your judgment straight. It’s important for you to tell what you may experience in that moment and what you should plan or analyze.
Feelings are part of the life we build and sometimes we tend to forget how to feel not because we’re not able to do that but because the stress and the daily agitation make us behave like wonder-people.
For you to have time to do what you like, to go out with your friends you have to be involved emotional in the process. Usually when you’re doing certain activities you like, you make stacks of energy for further activities. Unexpressed feelings can take the individual in an unpleasant situation which he will not be able to explain because he doesn’t have the key for the problem.
What we have to always keep in mind is that we have to learn how to express our emotions and our feelings, but not in an aggressive manner but in an assertive way… we’ll have to learn how to express ourselves in a productive way not only for us but also for the person we talk to.
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