How To Move On After a Break Up?

If you’ve just ended a love relationship in which you were happy, don’t deny! Most people deny the fact they’re hurting, and the first step to take after a relationship ends is to accept the reality. To move on after a break up, you really have to learn how to live with your anger, sadness, pain, and all that comes with them.

We live with the fear that our loved one will leave us… and when the day comes we’re scared, depressed or we feel that life lost its sense. When that happens, it’s good for us to take a moment in which we relax, in which we can think about us. We have to take some time to analyze our needs .

You may wonder how to do that. Well there are a few relationship advice :

1. Ask yourself these questions:
What do I need right now? Relax, go out, live with the disappointment!
How do I feel after this chapter ended for me?
What have I learned from this relationship? You have to realize the good things and also the bad things. From every experience we can learn things that can help us in the future.

2. Take your time to live with your sadness, don’t hide it! If you choose to hide it, it will come out when you leat expected it.

3. Resist the temptation of isolating yourself from people who care about you. The isolation, in excess, may increase you emotional pain but you can also enjoy the solitude because you need to heal yourself in peace and quiet.

It’s important you don’t move on quickly to the next relationship because you’ll consider it like a med. It will end when you realize that or it will end when you will realize it’s not what you wish.

Even if your relationship just ended it’s not the end of the world, it’s painful, but you can try to move on. A very important thing in this story is that you always have to remember to learn form each experience. So your relationship was bad, your partner took advantage of you, abused you emotionally or it just ended bad… perhaps no more feelings, cheating, the need of something new. But try to look back a little! you can learn from all of this, you can learn from your past relationship even if it turned bad at the end. Your relationship ended but your feeling, your knowledge remains there, try to use this as a weapon, try to use what you learned in your advantage.

Painful things happen to each of us, but you have to be responsible for what you feel and to keep your eyes open-wide for the opportunities life is giving to you. It’s just a matter of choice if you want to feel sad or to feel joy, to change your life in something better or to remain in this situation that’s hurting you.

About Iris Lulea

Psychologist specialized in Family, Couple and Children Therapy at S.P.E.R.